TLC celebrity stylist Sam Saboura talked wedding tips and trends at the 2016 WV Weddings Extravaganza.

Before the WV Weddings Extravaganza, we sat down with celebrity stylist Sam Saboura to talk styling tips and wedding trends. Our biggest takeaway? This is about you, the bride, and your partner—no one else.

What are the top national wedding trends you’re seeing now?

The trend in weddings is moving away from the ballroom and making the event personal. It’s DIY; it’s more intimate and more community-oriented.

Tell us your perspective on weddings, dresses, and the perfect fit?

My whole platform as a stylist on TV has been about using clothing as a corrective tool, and I don’t think there’s an article of clothing that’s more important or more corrective than a wedding dress. If a wedding dress is chosen correctly and is right for the bride, it can completely transform her body. You don’t have to go on a diet, you don’t have to go to the gym, if you’re doing your homework.

Can you give us the Spark Notes version?

Everyone should do the opposite of what their bodies are saying to do. If your body is short-waisted, do a longer waist to balance it out. If you’re very tall, you can drop the waist a little bit. If you’re curvy, you need structure. If you’re boxy, you need something soft and feminine with ruffles or diaphanous fabrics.

We all need a plan, but how much of a plan is too much?

The most important thing you can do is be fluid. If your vision is tunneled, and you’re not allowing other dresses into your world, you’re making a mistake. You’re not having fun. Part of the experience is trying something outside your comfort zone in a playful way. A lot of times you discover something about that playfulness that you can incorporate back into your wedding. The dress you react to by saying “I’ll never wear that dress,” is the first dress I make my clients try on. About 60 to 70 percent of the time, that’s the dress they buy.

When you’re styling a bride, what are some of the first things you ask?

I always ask a bride, “What’s your favorite part of your body?” It’s so easy to say what we don’t love. We zero in on that area, and it becomes the focal point of the entire fitting. But I like to know what a bride loves about her body. I want to set a positive tone at the beginning of the experience. I also always ask about budget, theme, and the bride’s style personality. Is she bohemian or classic? Romantic? Minimal? Modern? We all have one or two we gravitate to. Finally, I want to know how she wants to look for her groom. It’s something brides keep quiet about sometimes. You want to be beautiful not only for yourself and family and friends, but for the person you’re walking down the aisle to.

So if a woman can’t take a stylist with her to fittings, who is that friend or family member she should take with her?

Family and friends are wonderful if they’re supportive, but if they have an agenda they need to stay home. The friends who are honest and want you to be happy—the people who are close to you and allow you to be yourself and breathe—are the people you should take with you.

Let’s get real about bridesmaids for a second. Eclectic or all the same?

I love the idea of each girl owning her own sense of style around a color, fabric, or textural theme. But I’m also very classic. I don’t think a big matching bridal party is very modern or exciting, but I get it. Bridesmaids should frame the bride.

Any shopping tricks to help us narrow down our searches?

You know the three dresses in your closet that always work for you. Are they strapless, halter, V-neck? That’s your jumping-off point, your secret style weapon. But at the same time, your wedding dress doesn’t have to be exactly what you’ve been wearing for 25 years. It could be a one-off and very magical. That’s part of what the day is about—you don’t get married everyday.